Finally.. I divorced

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  1. Rodr-Evil

    Rodr-Evil Lucifer's children TFW2005 Supporter

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    And I have a little daughter (she is 9 months), I'm literally devastated.. This sucks but in my case is the best option for me and my daughter.
    I return to my mom's house, with my toys obviously...
    Tomorrow I'm going to see my baby. :(  I miss her very hard.
     
  2. Darkwing48

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    sorry for your loss. Did the split happen because of financial, personality, or transformer buying differences?
     
  3. jorod74

    jorod74 Psycholagnist (Ret.)

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    very sorry to hear that.
    i wish only the warmest and best for you and that little girl of yours.
     
  4. Rodr-Evil

    Rodr-Evil Lucifer's children TFW2005 Supporter

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    Thanks man, well.. is like a mix of all that.
     
  5. Deceptikitty

    Deceptikitty all about the hasubandos

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    Sorry about the divorce :( 

    But hey, at least you did it while your daughter is young so she doesn't have to adapt to it when she gets older.
     
  6. Darkwing48

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    Sorry if I was prying into your life but I was noticed that your situation is the opposite the articles I've read about the Divorces and the Economy
    Articles like this one.

    This wasn't the one I've read but their was one about a couple who couldn't divorce or stayed together after it because the ex-wife could find a place to stay, nor the ex-husband couldn't sell the house.

    Too bad your situation wasn't like that because it could allow you to work things out or at least still see your daughter as if things were ok.
     
  7. defstar

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    As others have said....sorry to hear about what you're going through...I've been in a similar situation and it's a very dark place...though it's hard to do keep your head up and keep moving forward...as time goes by things will get better...

    You have my thoughts and prayers...
     
  8. Rodr-Evil

    Rodr-Evil Lucifer's children TFW2005 Supporter

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    Yes, that's very true. Thanks man.
     
  9. Rodr-Evil

    Rodr-Evil Lucifer's children TFW2005 Supporter

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    Thankyou my friend.
     
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    Personally, I'm nearing the end of the process. No matter what, it's never easy, but the pain does subside over time. She and I have actually become friends again, and that's the best place for us.
    When there's a child involved, it makes the process even longer and more 'complicated'. Not because of custody or whatnot (even though these are big issues), but because you want to do what's best for them while still maintaining yourself throughout the ordeal.

    Keep your child in your mind and heart all the time. What's best for them is that mommy and daddy are there for them in their own ways. I've learned that being there for my daughter and being the best father I can for her is what she deserves, and in turn, that's been a huge help in healing the wounds for us all.
    It's taken awhile to get to the point where I feel stable again, but it will happen for you, too. Never feels that way when you're living it, but it will.

    Make sure your child is loved, and the rest will take care of itself.
     
  11. Chaos Muffin

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    Sorry to hear , I feel bad for you becasue I know your baby girl is probably all you think about and it can tear you up not being able to see her all the time.
    I hope you & the ex get along well enough to maybe let you get more time with her.
    Im guessing you only get too see her on the weekends?
    Don't feel like you're bad person for it, the system always does that to the man, even if he's a saint. The women always get the most favor.

    Oh and cheers , here's to new beginnings.
     
  12. Rodr-Evil

    Rodr-Evil Lucifer's children TFW2005 Supporter

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    Thanks for your words man, and yes, I think in my baby all the time... I don't have problems to see her almost everyday if I want. Thank to the gods for that.
     
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    Sorry to hear about that. Divorces can be very difficult to go through but sometimes it's what's best for everybody. I hope I never have to go through that myself but if the marriage is dead then there's no reason to prolong it any longer. I wish you the best of luck and I hope your daughter will still get all the love and support from her father.
     
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    damn man, sorry to hear that...hopefully you can move on and you and your ex can have a healthy relationship so that your daughter will learn to love you both and respect te decisions you made. best of luck man.
     
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    Sorry to hear about the divorce. Divorces are very hard, not that I don't speak that based on personal experience, but having known someone who got a divorce a few years back... it's just a really tough time.

    I can only hope the best for you.
     
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    Waytago on the positive thinking. "She'll adjust!" :lol 

    Seriously tho, that's a bummer even if you're part of the fault. Hope stuff improves and here's some well wishes for the kid.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear about the divorce, man. Hope everything works out for you and your daughter.
     
  18. Rodr-Evil

    Rodr-Evil Lucifer's children TFW2005 Supporter

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    Thanks man
     

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