I found this video interesting and thought you might enjoy this. YouTube - Dan Savage on The Price of Admission‏
Well that's the thing. One of my best friends believes in "love at first sight", and after about 3 hours of me essentially calling bullshit on the whole idea, we just agreed to disagree for the sake of our children's children not having to hear about it. I consider myself to be completely honest when I say things like "love at first sight is mostly a miss use of the word love", at least in terms of it being my position. I mean, just because two people have the potential to be happy, it doesn't mean that life is like the Princess Bride, and I just find it childish to think that it is.
Savage speaks truth. I saw him speak at my university over ten years ago, and he is still the same common sense savant he was back then. There is certainly no such thing as "the one." You pretend someone is the one. That's it. I am in a loving 4 year relationship with my girlfriend, but I can name probably a dozen other women I've met in my life with whom I can have a perfectly satisfying and happy relationship with. A relationship is like anything else: it is what you make of it. I'm totally posting this clip to facebook, since then my girlfriend will see it. She nags at me all the time for stupid shit like putting the toilet seat down. Sometimes I remember, sometimes I don't, who gives a shit? She chalks this up to me not loving her enough. Really? It's not that I don't love her enough, it's that I'm not wired that way. I just don't give a shit about it. I don't. I have even set reminders for myself on my iphone to put the toilet seat down, but I still don't do it half the time. It's because IT DOESN"T MATTER. When she does stuff I don't like, such as leaving all her stuff lying around the house, I don't care. I don't nag her, I just pick it up, because it's easier to do that. It's not a big deal. When I think about it, there is so much stuff I can throw back in her face, but I never do. Why? Cause I love her and it doesn't matter. People have to stop agonizing over the little stuff and start appreciating the good things in their lives.
Nobody's perfect, we all have shit that is going to piss off other people. But its the times between those moments of homicidal irritation, where someone makes you feel great, that make someone worth it.