Brother passed away

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  1. eagc7

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    Ya know my mom was pregrant?, well she gave brith last week and the baby died from a heart attack

    no im not sad. because Im Insensitive. yeah.....everytime somebody in my family dies i never cry or get sad. no im not mean with my family im really Insensitive, even when my pets dies i dont cry or get sad or when an person i admire (like a director, actor etc etc) dies i Dont Cry or get sad too. my only reaction is a suprsied reaction (still i didnt wanted another sibling anyway, again im not mean or evil, im just Insensitive)

    sorry i could not give this news last week but i was banned from here for a week so Yeah....

    Anyway ya guys know me and otehr siblnigs nearly died during, after or before birth?
     
  2. grimlock1972

    grimlock1972 "No Mas" My Wallet

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    my condolences to your family.
     
  3. jorod74

    jorod74 Psycholagnist (Ret.)

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    what kind of baloney is this? no one is unmoved by a death, a death of a child, even.

    i am truly sorry for your loss, and the way you deal with the news is a personal thing and you do it the best way possible.

    i am almost 37 and have never attended a funeral in my life- not for family, friends, for anybody.
    but i don't go on about being a jerkwad or a heartless person. I know how i feel, how i have to cope and i do what needs to be done. if others can't accept it, fuck 'em.

    the thing is, my mom and dad knew all their lives about how i did things and were okay that i would not attend theirs.
    so as far as i am concerned, I am okay with it.

    it's okay to not feel attachment to the child; i may not know why you don't, it could be that you didn't have a chance to bond with the infant, or whatever. it's your feelings.

    your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  4. Valsion

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    When I was 14, my mom could've give birth to a younger brother, but it failed... so I know how this feels.
     
  5. Fishdirt

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    Sociopaths and other mental conditions do make it impossible for some to show empathy or emotion.
     
  6. doucoo

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    I agree, people deal with things in different ways. Sometimes it all comes out later in life because they have been bottling it all up inside
     
  7. TrueNomadSkies

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    Well for what it's worth, it doesn't even need to be due to a medical condition (although this is possible too), and it doesn't even need to have to do with bottled up emotions either. Some people are just more expressive on the outside than others, and thinking that these people "don't care" because of it really isn't fair. For example, it wasn't until recently that I began being expressive with my emotions, and it wasn't by choice either.

    Also at the same time, the OP's situation has to do with the loss of someone that he never knew, so it's not very surprising for his reaction to be minimal. It just goes back to the basic mentality of only being able to lose something that we already had, and that's why the loss of someone close to us hurts more than the loss of someone who isn't close. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's cold. It's just human nature.
     
  8. Chaos Muffin

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    Hope your family is doing ok. Take care of your mom, she needs all the love she can get right now.
     
  9. Tyrannosaur

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    I think eagc7 mentioned he had aspergers. Many people with aspergers show a lack of empathy, some have a little while others have absolutely none.

    My condolences to you and your family eagc7 :(  I had a little cousin too who died a week after birth. Poor thing was born with a hole in it's heart and was on life support from birth 'til death.
     
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    My condolences. I had the same delayed reaction when my dad's grandmother died. No tears or nothing. I knew her quite well, too.
    Cherish your mom and keep her close.
     
  11. eagc7

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    i have Asperger
     
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    Praying for your family man.
     
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    While you may not be saddened by it, your Mom really maybe affected by it. Aspergers or not, you should at least have the decency to be respectful to her...
     
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    I feel your pain dude. My dad died on easter.
     
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    Sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family have my condolences.
     
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    Agreed. You may not have had an attachment with the baby, but your mom sure as hell did. I can't imagine. thoughts with your family.
     
  18. Nexus Prime

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    You may not mourn the dead, but make sure you console the living.

    Keeping you and your family in prayer.
     
  19. GAUGE

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    no offense, but this really needs to be in (Non-TF related) "General Discussion".
     
  20. GAUGE

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    My condolences.

    I hope everything is okay with you and yours.



    Oh, and for the record, your not insensitive, your just a Sociopath.

    Sociopaths are not in anyway touch with their emotions, with the exception of Fear.

    or... maybe you have a disassociative personality. or you just lack Apathy.

    either way I hope your mom is okay. and you should really try to be there for her.
     

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