Apology to victims of Autism-spectrum disorders

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  1. Bryan

    Bryan ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ

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    So I've been having some problems at work, and I felt it was just stress (I work in a very intense job), but apparently it was worse than that. Basically I got into an argument with someone who is higher than me (but not my superior), and as a result, my boss ordered a mental health evaluation.

    It was really awkward because I know the psychologist (I work with him), and I felt like he was trying to second guess everything I was telling him or misinterpreting my words. Anyways, I got VERY frustrated with him and his assumptions, so basically they had to send me somewhere else for an evaluation by a different psychologist. I admit I blew up at him and he's a little guy, so I shouldn't have done that but I feel like he shouldn't have been evaluating me from the very beginning.

    So the second psychologist I saw was very different and even though I don't--or didn't, but I'll get to that in a minute--believe in psychology, she seemed pretty smart and I got along better with her because she actually listened and didn't just tell me what I was really saying.

    This is embarassing to me, but long story short, after several visits and a LOT of paper testing, I was diagnosed with Asperger's, which many people here know is an autism-spectrum disorder. I don't know yet how this is going to affect my ability to stay in my job, much less my career progression, but I should find out soon when I have an official meeting with my boss this week.

    The reason I am putting this out there is over the years, I have been a real jerk to many people with Asperger's and other autism-spectrum disorders, in real life but especially on this board. The worst thing I did was dismiss their feelings by saying their condition wasn't real.

    Now that I've been diagnosed, I understand that is a real condition, and it explains a lot of things--to include probably why I was such a jerk about it in the first place! :D  I admit I'm worried about work, but somehow it seems better now that I know what's really going on.

    So, yeah, I just want to apologize for being such a jerk. I was wrong and I'm sorry.
     
  2. McBradders

    McBradders James Franco Club! Moderator

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    Not sure if serious.
     
  3. Spiderus Prime

    Spiderus Prime TFW Spongebob since 2007

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  4. rxlthunder

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    This.
     
  5. Zeta Otaku

    Zeta Otaku Who ya gonna call? TFW2005 Supporter

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    just as long as you try to control and treat the condition and not allow it to become an excuse for your actions, that's the important thing.

    I was diagnosed with ADHD well after it would have done me any good to know about it (post school years), but it was at least some comfort to know there was a reason why I had so many problems concentrating in school.
     
  6. Metal Chaos

    Metal Chaos The Spark of Chaos

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    As Rob Thomas once said, "Everybody is a little fucked up." Doesn't matter who you are. You show me someone who claims they are 100% normal and I'll show you a liar.
     
  7. seeker311

    seeker311 The Collector

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    it sounds like an anger issue more than anything...
     
  8. KA

    KA PENIS GOES WHERE?!!

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    So...if autism makes people jerks, does that mean being a jerk is...treatable?!!

    *mind blown*
     
  9. jorod74

    jorod74 Psycholagnist (Ret.)

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    i was a little bothered by one incident leading to a boss ordering you to get a mental evaluation.
    where my dad worked, he lost his cool a few times, but never told him he was mental.
    kinda makes me wonder what kind of world we live in when the knee jerk reaction to everything is, "you need therapy."
    i don't discount psychology/psychiatry, and the need for people to get help.
    but really, like the Joker told Batman, it just takes one bad day to make someone do the most terrible of things.
    sometimes we just have a really lousy week.

    but if you have a real condition and it is treatable, godspeed.
     
  10. Autovolt 127

    Autovolt 127 Get In The Titan, Prime!

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    I forgive you.

    I have Aspergers too.
     
  11. Star Sabre James

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    I, truly, hope that things work out well for you, with your job, and life.
     
  12. The Dark Seeker

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    Stigma and labeling. That's all I can think of.
     
  13. Hot Shot.

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    Same, but if you are serious, it's alright.

    I've been diagnosed with clinical depression, anxiety, and Aspergers, and I agree with Zeta Otaku. I've never quite had the blaming problem others have. In fact, it drives me nuts when my dad makes it sound like I'm crippled to every doctor I see. Hell, he told my goddamn dentist.

    I'm definitely hindered by it though. I could pretty much tell my life story, but I'll spare the details and say that since you have a job and probably finished school, you're in a much better situation than I am and shouldn't let this diagnosis stop you now. Just keep on living like you never went to see the doctor, but pay attention to your actions.
     
  14. smkspy

    smkspy is one nice fucking kitty

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    Aspergers, the new legal license to act like an asshole any time you want. I love it.

    And no, I don't think this serious. I highly doubt Bryan is the type of person to immediately fall for the "I got label with the latest mental disorder, and now I understand the plight of those that I've viciously teased in the past" type of person.
     
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  17. Wheeljack_Prime

    Wheeljack_Prime Don't eat me

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    One of us! One of us! One of us! One of us!

    So long as you don't use it as a fallback for your social deficiencies/problems, you should be just fine.
     
  18. MetalRyde

    MetalRyde is an a-hole with a heart.

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    eh. we all got issues. dont beat yourself up about it.
     
  19. TFXProtector

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    Definitely not sure if serious.

    I've known a few people with Asperger's and other forms of Autism, and they seemed to lack these negative aspects.

    So, yeah, definitely not sure if serious.

    If this is a joke, this should be a punishable offense.
     
  20. Eric

    Eric RIP AND TEAR!!!

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    This. It's our imperfections and flaws that make us perfect in our own way.
     

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