am I a big jerkface? I just "discussed" my girlfriends weight with her.

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  1. ckhtiger

    ckhtiger old skool fool

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    I'll be quite forthcoming. I do find appearances important, at least as far as fitness goes. now, the backstory. my girlfriend's about 5'2, and was about 115 when I met her. very outdoorsy, hiker, kayaker, and jogger. so she's like solid, pretty strong. but now 4 years later, she's at least 130-135 and it's all gone to her belly. I mean it's like she has a potbelly, and it's not cute. but the weird thing is, it only seems to show when she wears certain things.

    we had mentioned a while ago that we'd always let each other know if we were getting fat, so I brought it up. she's gone to the gym at least twice a week for the past two years, and she started running early in the morning because that is supposed to be the best at burning off fat. the main problem, I think, is that she's never been good at controlling her appetite. she needs to eat like every three hours or she gets hungry. and now that she's doing this extra running, she eats as much as me.

    the problem is, I have a super high metabolism and only lift weights to maintain muscle tone. we're both vegans, so it's not like we eat junk food. she's also been on the pill, which I know causes weight gain, but she's been on it almost since we got together, so I have no idea what's going on. any of you guys have any ideas/suggestions? I kinda feel like an asshole because she started bawling, even though she wasn't mad at me, she just doesn't know what to do about the weight.
     
  2. ranoobu

    ranoobu I like fried chicken

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    i can tell you that i've seen it.. a girl goes on the pill and gains weight.. and doesn't realize it (Even though the doc says it's possible)

    then off the pill she goes and bam.. weight loss..

    You're not a jerk if you both agreed to bring it up. If she didn't want you to bring it up she wouldn't have agreed.. unless she's one of those "i go with the flow" and "i keep sad things to myself" types.

    Then i don't know what to tell you.. you're always a jerk to someone. there's no pleasing everyone :) 
     
  3. Gears

    Gears buh-buh-body ya Veteran

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    Does she do sit-ups? Maybe she should do more of them. Also I knew a girl once who started getting bigger in the belly but no where else. Turns out she had a huge cyst growing in her belly.
     
  4. Trenner Dios

    Trenner Dios Humility > Huge Ego

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    I dunno what to tell you. My fiancee has actually lost weight since she started on the pill (which may have nothing to do with the pill). If you're both concerned, you may want to have her see a doctor, dietician, or similar specialist.
     
  5. FreshDebesh

    FreshDebesh <b><font color=brickred>oye chak de phatte!</font> Veteran

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    Yeah, its definitely possible from the the pill. You might also wanna get her thyroid function tested out too.
     
  6. ckhtiger

    ckhtiger old skool fool

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    the killer though is that she even does pilates. but like I said, she's beein on the pill for four years, but the weight gain is just in the last year or so.
     
  7. FreshDebesh

    FreshDebesh <b><font color=brickred>oye chak de phatte!</font> Veteran

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    Get her sugar checked too. It could be a hormone imbalance. Also, how's her mood been lately? Any signs of depression or anything?
     
  8. Trenner Dios

    Trenner Dios Humility > Huge Ego

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    How old is she? Could it simply be her metabolism slowing down?
     
  9. ckhtiger

    ckhtiger old skool fool

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    she's 27.
     
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    Regardless of what caused it, it is always sheer idiocy to discuss or bring up her weight issues under any circumstances.

    DO NOT.

    Madness lies therein. Does she look fat in those jeans? Maybe, but you sure as hell don't say yes if you value your life.






    Unless it's, like, life threatening, but if you bring it up it most likely will be no matter what anyway.
     
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    Prowl_Delta_31 Eating your donuts

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    Sit ups will make the ab muscles bigger pushing the fat out. You have to get rid of the fat first and the pill does make women put on weight like crazy.
     
  12. Bryan

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    Yeah, FD hit up the possible medical causes already, and failing those, eating right is the only real option for losing weight. Current research suggests that exercise supports controlling weight, but diet choices are what help you lose weight.

    And shit, I'd tell her. Will it 'cause problems? Probably. But if you're not feeling here due to weight gain, why not say something? At least gives you a shot at getting her to change her situation.
     
  13. Trenner Dios

    Trenner Dios Humility > Huge Ego

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    That could be it! Maybe she has crazy awesome ab muscles under there, and the belly fat just needs to be trimmed off a bit.
     
  14. pscoop

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    You got some balls son :lol 
     
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    Talathia TFW's Cool Little Heathen

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    8|~ Hmm.. I'm on the pill, 23 years of age, 5'5 and I've been a steady 135-140 for a while. It's hard to say WHAT it is. Every-one's body is different. It could be anything.

    But dude, that took some balls of steal to say that. I'm a girl and although- if someone brought up the fact "it couldn't hurt to drop a few pounds" I'd be okay with it. Because I'm pretty hard core on keeping my figure in shape. But some other girls aiiiiiiiie *gives you a riot helmet* god speed.
     
  16. TrickyDisco

    TrickyDisco <b><font color=blue>Voted TFW2005's Sexiest Female

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    I agree.
    Even though she knows she is putting on a bit more weight than usual, mention this to her and you are SHREDDED. :lol 

    I myself fluctuate quite a bit, not an issue of several lbs or anything, but my body shape changes dramatically just depending on if it is *that* time of the month or not....

    And I have heard that whole 'on the pill/not on the pill' thing so often it's nothing more than a myth. I have never known the pill to have an effect on my metabolism in the slightest, no matter what brand I am using. And then I hear from girls who blame all their medical shortcomings and whatnot on the bloody pill.
    Seriously ladies...IT'S NOT THE PILL. It's PROBABLY just you eating more and exercising less than you should.

    And yes, I am so the pot calling the kettle black :p 
     
  17. megamus

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    Does she still do all those things she used to do to keep in shape? I would not say it's the pill. I've come to find out that people in general tend to get lazy as the relationship goes on. Some may say it's because we are not on the look for someone. But really it's because we get into a routine and maybe working out is not in the current routine for the two of you. Just a thought.
     
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    Maybe she needs to switch to a different pill. The hormones they put in food these days is horrible. Do you eat only organic food?
     
  19. McBradders

    McBradders James Franco Club! Moderator

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    Haha Tricky FTW! :D 
     
  20. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot Arise Rodimus Prime

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    you jerk! :D 
     

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