a question about dating

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  1. GENOZAUR

    GENOZAUR Banned

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    when it comes to the whole matter of dating its pretty much common sense for even a guy who happens to be a new comer to dating to know that if he has a brother or male friend that dating the the guys ex girlfriends happens to be off limits all together in the case where it turned out badly for both persons involved in the break up

    which brings me to my question

    how does any of that apply if at all in the case where the guys brother or male friend happens to start dating a person who is a relative of said ex girlfriend but not a actual immediate relative of the ex girlfriend.

    to be honest i see nothing wroung with the guys brother or male friend dating a distant relative of said ex girlfriend under those circumstances

    as they say no harm no foul
     
  2. Kuma Style

    Kuma Style On Military Leave TFW2005 Supporter

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    Someone being an ex doesn't make every female in her family off limits to your friends and family man...

    These topics are amazing. Keep em coming. +9,001
     
  3. moreprimeland

    moreprimeland Optimus told me to do it! Moderator TFW2005 Supporter

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    Can't see why it should be a problem unless there was some psycho crazy stuff that happened in the older relationship. (I have a couple of close girlfriends that have dated my old boyfriends and vice versa..no biggie.) If you have a good relationship with said family or friend just say something and see what happens.
     
  4. GENOZAUR

    GENOZAUR Banned

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    where the guys brother or male friend is concerned in the matter

    does that mean its jsut the ex girlfriend and her sister who happen to be off limits to a guy if he wants to date any of the single woman relatives of the ex girlfriends family?
     
  5. GENOZAUR

    GENOZAUR Banned

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    sometimes all it takes is creative thinking outside the box like that to help a guy sidestep around a sociall taboo matter like that dating wise
     
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    You mean all this applies even when you're banging a dog, like you're so inclined to do?
     
  7. Hot Shot.

    Hot Shot. Giving up on the fiction.

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    Just give the upset relatives a new chew toy. They'll forget about the whole thing.
     
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    TrueNomadSkies Airachnid's ratservant

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    I see nothing wrong with keeping it in the family, nope.
     
  9. GENOZAUR

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    guys knock it off with the animal stuff all right? for once i am actually trying to udnerstand this particuler matter for myself i ngiving it seriouse though as a person

    only reason i brought the matter up is my brother dustin and his frend john happen to be piciking fights with eachother over the matter and to be hoenst i think my bro is going way to far in his telling john that the girl and her entirefamily are off limits dating wise and im the one stuck in the middle tyring to understand the matter for mysel with no one i nmy family being willing to give me a honest answere on the matter in a open minded kind of way
     
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    blurr69 First time caller

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    Holy run on sentence O.O.

    It being bogus to hook up with a friends recent ex is common sense. Hooking up with said ex's relatives being off limits makes no sense..
     
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    It's a big world, there's plenty of other people out there.

    Put yourself in their shoes. Would you want your friends/family dating your exes?
     
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    03Mach1 Reason Has No Voice

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    GENOZAUR Banned

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    not i repeat not ex girlfriend but a relative of said ex girlfriend perferably a cousin of the ex girlfriend at closest i see nothing wrougn in the guys brother or guy friend dating a relative of the ex girlfriend under those circumstances

    if the relative of said ex girlfriend was in any way or role involved in the dating relationship the two once shared or was otherwise involved in the two breaking up in the first place i an udnerstand the relative being entirely off limits as well

    i still see nothing wroung with the guys brother or guy friend dating a relative of the ex girlfriend so long as said relative of the ex girlfriend was not involved at all in the dating relationship break up originally


    if the guys brother or guy friend happens to be on good terms with the ex girlfriends family then i see nothign worung with him dating a relative of the ex girlfriend.

    if the guy who went through the break up choeses to throw a shit fit on the matter just for the sake of being a whiny prick.

    sometimes a matter like this under those circumstances can only be resolved with any lasting degree of finality with a mix of confrontation intimidation and physcial force if need be

    as they say all is fair in love and war
     
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    i agree with what tjduckett and blur69 have to say on the matter
     
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    it takes a god bit of tact and common snese to be able to find a acceptable loop hole on the matter when it comes their being a acceptable grey area on this matter but it is there nonetheless.
     
  16. blurr69

    blurr69 First time caller

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    The relatives of this ex would tell everyone to screw too. Promise.
     
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    you can do what my best friend did--ask the dude if he'd be cool with it. worst thing he can do is say no, and things are mildly awkward for a few days, and then you move on. ESPECIALLY if the dude has moved on and/or gotten over the ex. if the chick is that cool and really worth it, it doesn't make sense to let her get away if there's no hard feelings. just get that permission (don't violate the man code!) and go for it.
     
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    Wheeljack_Prime Don't eat me

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    All's fair in love and war, dude.
     
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    TrueNomadSkies Airachnid's ratservant

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    Pretty much.

    The last thing you wanna do is let the right bird get away because of some stupid "bros before hoes" garbage that no real friend/brother/parole officer would hold you to anyway.
     
  20. Omegatron

    Omegatron Mandatory Fun. Buy it now TFW2005 Supporter

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    You'd probably get more intelligent responses if you (a) used proper punctuation and grammar and (b) could make people forget about the dog thing.

    Date any human non-relative you want. If it works out, fine. If not, move on. Don't worry about who you brother/ friend is dating. If they're bothered by who you're dating, just tell them, "Look, man, it'll either work out, or it won't. If it does, you can be happy for me. If not, you get to say you told me so."
     

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