Jusging my peoples responses it seems im one of the few that is so far enjoying highschool and “high on the social ladder” so maybe thats why id want to go
Hah. Everybody in my class was a bunch of fake, douchey assholes. I wouldn't go, and neither should you. If there was someone you cared about in High School you, or most people, usually try and keep them in your life. I knew going into my senior year none of those people would ever matter to me again, and so I didn't care to go to any if their parties or the sort. They all told me they would all be friends forever and that I needed to be a part of that, well guess who was right in the end? Half of them get pregnant their senior year, some went to jail, and the others are all in college minding their own damn bussiness. I wouldn't even be invited to a reunion if there was one and I'm fine with that. I don't ever want to see any of those fake assholes again. Yeah I was the kid who only had one friend, but at least I was true to myself. When other people grow up(if they even do) those other people aren't factored their changing lives. Someone who actually becomes their own person doesn't want them. Thats not saying you can't have genuinely good friends in High School, but their all mostly teenagers adhering to peer pressure.
Your decision. If you don't want to go, don't go. I enjoyed my 10 year high school reunion, but it was nothing Shrektacular either. It originally was going to be at this crappy sports bar in town, and I would not have gone if that was the location. Fortunately it got moved to a brewery with outdoor seating, so I decided to go. And yeah, I find high school and college alike overrated, socially speaking. Most of my good friends are people I met after college in situations outside of school or from church growing up. College is full of douches.
No, if you weren't high on the social ladder nor on the social clique list, there's no need to go or prove anything. The social ladder status doesn't change, nor does the social clique list, it just transfers into adulthood. If you were an outsider in high school and were treated as such, you will be most likely be an outsider when you show up for the reunion, but now your "paying to be an outsider". ,, think about it before you go
All the more you shouldn't go, because in those two categories you don't participant in and you know that before you pay and step over the threshold. Granted you can have a good time without alcohol but you said your introverted. Just go to the restaurant without the alcohol some other time if you really want to, without your reunion classmates.
Don't remind me that my 20th is coming up. I wasn't invited to the 10th, though, because I didn't go to the 5th. At the time, I was having a hell of a time finding a job (ye olde can't get experience without a job and can't get a job without experience), so a class reunion was pretty low on my priority list. I'd be more inclined to go now if I had anybody to go with. Most of my friends from then have scattered across the country or aren't interested. A college reunion would work better but they don't box kids into neat little groups like with highschool. As is, regret is very fleeting.
Wow, I thought I was one of the few who had no interest in going to any reunion. In high school I was at the very bottom of the social order; practically invisible. I doubt 99% of my graduating class would recognize me at a reunion. I ran into our class president (and head of the reunion committee) at a restaurant a few months before our 20 year reunion; I give her credit for recognizing me, even though I don't think we spoke 2 words to each other in high school (she was one of those overachievers who was involved in EVERYTHING, way at the top of the social order). She encouraged me to come, but I think my pronounced lack of interest must have made an impression, as I have not heard anything from the reunion committee since then, not even a formal invitation (which I did receive for the 10 year reunion). Even though she was nice about it, just talking to her made all the feelings of being looked down upon and made fun of for being "weird" come flooding back. Sorry, not interested in spending money to see all those people again and ending up, in the words of Lt. Barclay, "standing in the corner trying to look comfortable examining a potted plant."
It depends if you're a better person now than you were. Some people take pleasure in showing up the people that picked on them in high school; or you have a super hot/rich spouse; etc etc. If nothing's changed, and you're not confident about yourself, then don't go. For me, I haven't aged much in 20 years, I'd be curious how everyone looks, especially the girls that didn't give me the time of day back then.
Yeah, I haven't gained any weight and I still have all my hair. Give me a sports car and I'd consider going to my 30th, all the popular kids are going to be trainwrecks by then.
I still live about 30 miles from my high school. I see everybody I care to see on a regular basis, and don't much care what those I haven't kept up with. Skipped our 10 year, will probably skip our 20th. Nobody's really changed that much, and I really don't care to brag about anything, so its no big loss.
Do you have a high paying job? Did you lose a lot of weight? Do you have a pretty wife? Are you more attractive now than you were? If yes to any of those, go. If no to all of them, stay home.
I went to my 10th and sort of regretted it. It ended up being a gigantic clique party; people that knew each other and hung out in HS were doing so at the reunion. There was ZERO mingling. The worst part about it was a guy that lived across the street from me who I used to hang out with and considered a good friend (at the time) acted like he didn't even know me, probably because he had experienced moderate success with his career and married a pretty white girl. He was Chinese. That was a bit disheartening; having someone you considered a friend look through you when you KNOW they saw you... and it's not like he was Mr. Popularity. My 20th recently came up and my thoughts on going were FTS. I have Facebook, so if anyone wants to chit-chat, they can hit me up there. I have a unique name, so I'm not difficult to find.
I remember back in the 80's when I was in high school and the Boomers were having their 20ths that my high schools had them attend the Homecoming assembly, and that my mom also attended her's at her high school. Bummer that it sounds like many of them nowadays don't happen at the school at all - even if I was still interested in attending I'd sure as heck want to check out how things have changed, see my old teachers, etc. Wouldn't be worth it otherwise, IMO. --Moony
They still do this stuff? With social media there's really not the need that there once was... Really, some folks didn't see or hear about their classmates for 10 or 20 years and it was a big deal, get dressed up and go talk about what everybody's been doing...Now you can look'em up if you want to... if you don't then they don't matter enough. Especially for $50! Most people go back to brag about their own success anyway....
I'd never go to a school reunion, all the people I actually liked from school are still my friends today, the rest I have zero interest in!
I apparently had mine a few months ago; meh. It was a huge school and while I was friends with the people who were planning the reunion, I just have no interest in seeing them right now.
So yeah, mystery benefactor payed for whoever couldn't pay payed for those who where a bit short on money, so I went tonight, had fun, saw people I have t seen in person since graduation...... no awkward moments of seeing old crushes (the major ones that is, so the moment of closure for my sanity......but again the one crush got married a few years ago and has a couple kids)......now I just have to get off my ass and find a plus one for the next Reunion (any Personals on this site?)
That's great you went tonight. I went to my 20th HS reunion in recent memory. I didn't want to at first but my best friend from HS encouraged me to go. It was fun actually. The guys that I couldn't stand back then, and who I would never get along with turned out to be super mellow and fun to talk to. It was also weird to be talking about health issues, homes, divorces, suicides, cancer, amputations from diabetes as back then none of this was ever discussed. Now that most of us got to meet up after all these years, along with FB keeping in contact with everyone, we have an annual reunion going on.
