Just read ILD's story, I'm really sorry. Losing anyone his horrible, let alone your own child.

 

ILD

I do remember you talking about what happened with your little boy. I can never know the the pain you're in, from what happened, but, you do have my condolences, and my best wishea on your current pregnancy.

Ionacus: that is horrible what happened, and it makes me sick hearing about what that low life did to you and your child. I would have had a very hard time not putting some lead into the scum bag.

 

Thank you both. And star saber, I have to say I did get him a bit. He was there at the hospital for his injuries. My ex did put up a fight, I almost went to jail myself for attacking him. I only didn't because the judge said I wasn't in my right mind. But he is rotting away for life. Michigan doesn't take revenge on the person who put you in jail very lightly.

 

This reactive response reminds me of the numerous discussions I've had with my current exGF. She gets aggressively defensive when I point out that I broke up with her because of her consistent anger issues, then immediately turns it around to make it seem as if I'm the bad guy, and on top of that, tells others I dumped her out of the blue. It's all just a distraction so she doesn't have to deal with the responsibility of what she did.

While I feel empathy towards your loss, who even said that? TBH, if you had just wrote:

"This thread was dead for a while, I bumped it with silly stuff just to get you guys going. It's a toy forum I use it for entertainment."

^^that would have been totally believable, and I would have thought "oh...well, maybe she was just joking with us."

Seriously, people respond to what other people post. That's how it works. It's no secret. In this case, you're one of the people others are responding to. IMO you're being treated as anyone else would be or has been treated when they post something in a public medium that is either contradictory, simply doesn't jive with what's been said previously, or makes one say out loud "Wait...was this person being serious?"

 

Yeah, you pretty much summed up my thoughts on the matter as well. I didn't want to be the person that said something first, so thank you for that  

I saw this as a "I'm being given a hard time like any other member here, so I'll get them to quit by bringing up something traumatic to get some sympathy." Don't get me wrong, it's a sucky situation, but you're obviously using it to your advantage.

Switching gears, how do you let a younger female friend know that their relationship seems a little questionable when the person they're dating is 10+ years older than them, an ex of a friend and has a few kids of their own, not to mention said friend doesn't have the same mindset or life experience as the "datee." Or do you not say anything and be a good friend by lying your ass off and saying you're happy for them?  

 

Yeah I agree with you guys. ILD, we all supported you when it happened, and we still feel sorry, but bringing it up because you're being called out on your questionable posting habits is kind of a shitty thing to do.

Gotta let her learn for herself if she isn't receptive to your advice. Just one of those things.

 

That's really rough everyone here.

 

Yeah, I know, but the conversation has never really come up so I, nor others have ever had the chance to express our opinions on the matter, which is probably a good thing as we all feel the same way.

 

I always make sure when a chick wants relationship advice that I'm free to say what I want. I've been told I can be an asshole at times, and they know ahead of time what the conversation is going to be like. Just the matter of if they want to hear it or not.

 

Even by mentioning it here, you made it "everyone's business." There was no reason to connect the two though. What does self-pleasure have anything to do with pregnancy, specifically in your case, other than preventing it? If you didn't need the sympathy of "middle schoolers" or care about what we have to say, you could have just as easily dropped the subject and moved on. Seriously, what was the point?

I'm pretty much the same way  

 

i thought i was the asshole. it is under my name.

 

Just a question out of curiosity. What do you think is an acceptable amount of time to date someone before you propose/get proposed to.

One of my friend's got married after 6 months and one of my cousins didn't get engaged until after almost 7 years. Obviously, everyone's opinion differs, but I'm curious to see what others think.

 

There really isn't a definite answer to this question. It depends on the comfort level of both people and how they feel about the subject. Personally, I wouldn't accept a proposal if I haven't been in a relationship for at least a year unless I was very certain of his intentions. Early proposals just make me more paranoid about things.

 

For all of you that have suffered losses, I feel for you.

This thread however has far overrun its course. There should never have been sexual discussion at all. Most of us that participate on this site are older fans and mature. However, as old as the majority of our site audience is, this is still a Transformers site. Kids still lurk these boards for information on toys.