Questions asked when single? *not a spam thread*

[alphie]

Fair warning, this is not a spam thread. I am using this for a project in my church's video team.

We are doing a video about what people have been told as a single person. What have your friends, family, etc say to you at one time? Example: "Why aren't you married?", "Do you even like to date?" Etc. Kind of questions like that.

Basically what we are going to do, is use the comments and do a voice over, kind of like somebody is thinking them.

Let the comments roll.

[smkspy]

Everyone I know doesn't look act like its a big deal to be single...because its not. I think in this day and age, society has moved beyond the perception that if your over 25 and not married, then something is wrong with your life.

My question is why is your church even making a video about this in the first place? I think there are more pressing issues than being single to worry about in any community.

[alphie]

It's basically a very short intro video to lead to the main service. To grab the audience attention. Probably going to be about a minute to a minute and a half long.

If anybody wants to see the videos we have done before, click here:

http://youtube.com/results?search_query=mylakeland

[Ops_was_a_truck]

There are a variety of swingers-style and bar pick-up questions that come to mind and, out of respect for Alphie, will summarily be left unsaid.

The biggest one I remember was my Mom always saying, "So, have you tried asking anyone out recently?" YES AAARGH

[$5HotRod]

The question I always find myself asking is "why is it so goddamnably hard to meet new people?" Not even looking for a significant other but just to find friends to hang with. I've been the new guy to more areas than I care to count and it seems to be a trend that people tend to stick together in tight, little groups and hardly let anyone new in. Being that new guy, it tends to suck.

[Bryan]

My parents and family members, thankfully, have never seen fit to bother me about that kinda stuff.

Friends and siblings ask, but they do so in a way that would be totally inappropriate for a church video. Basically, they're never really concerned if I'm dating, but rather...well, you get the idea.

[smkspy]

Originally Posted by squirrelcar

Basically, they're never really concerned if I'm dating, but rather...well, you get the idea.

Yeah, this is the real question that I get...whether or not I'm getting any jollys.

[Star Sabre James]

Well, my parents gave me a birthday card this year that said something about how many diapers they changed when I was a baby. On the inside it said something about when am I going to get one of my own to do that for. I would like to, but I have a hard time finding any time to search for dates.

[Gigatron_2005]

Originally Posted by $5HotRod

The question I always find myself asking is "why is it so goddamnably hard to meet new people?" Not even looking for a significant other but just to find friends to hang with. I've been the new guy to more areas than I care to count and it seems to be a trend that people tend to stick together in tight, little groups and hardly let anyone new in. Being that new guy, it tends to suck.

I totally agree. Ive found that meeting new people in general is a royal pain. Even if you get along with somebody quite well, they never bother to bring you into any sort of group, or introduce you to their other friends. Ive got friends that seem to want to keep me separate from any other group that they might have. I don't know if this problem is mine, or if I just know some really crappy people.


Also, from my personal experience is that girls are often quite easy to talk to, but anyone that I really enjoy conversing with is not single. However there are a lot of times when they also do not bother to keep a conversation going, and will look for any excuse to get out of the conversation. I just don't bother with those.

Females in general also seem to be really difficult to get any results from rather than just somebody to talk to at a designated time/location. They never want to go out to lunch or get a quick dinner or anything friendly like that. And being in college, I get the "Ive got a test to study for right now" excuse now. Once again, they never bother to bring you into any other social part of their lives so that you may possibly meet new people/girls. I feel very much like the system just wont let me in.

Anyway, on topic with the thread. I never get asked questions about being single from people my own age or around my own age. But I may get the occasional odd look or just a "why are you single?" or "What are you looking for?" from people of older generations that seem to like to shove their nose into the failed social life of a bitter young person.

[Bryan]

I feel some of y'all on the difficulty in meeting new people--friends OR females, but it's honestly just a question of putting yourself out there.

I move a lot. Like every few years at a maximum. This year, I'm moving every five weeks. So to avoid just sitting on my ass, I talk to everyone. And I mean everyone. I joke, I converse, I chat. Whatever.

A good 'in' when you meet someone that you think you'd enjoy hanging out with--again, friend OR female--is to tell them you're not from around the area/familiar with what's exciting/whatever, and then ask them what's fun to do. If they're cool, they'll often invite you along. Then just meet everyone when you go out.

Making friends is just as hard as dating sometimes, and you succeed the same way. By putting yourself out there and using the shotgun approach.