I think this thread needs to be locked. Nothing good is going to come of this, and he isn't listening to anyone; it's coming off as a ploy for attention that's constructed like a poorly-written soap opera.

 

Yeah, especially when the details keep changing.

EDIT: Can we please get this thread locked since it's been making a downward spiral and isn't going anywhere?

 

What's relevant is posted as needed.

 

I agree

 

I think y'all are misinterpreting what the OP said. From what I gather this is what happened.

-OP dates girl.
-Around one month in OP finds out girl is pregnant. Implication is it's his.
-Over the course of a few weeks they decide they will have the baby. (According to the OP he's always wanted a kid but this was unplanned).
-He makes plans, they go to Botcon. She stays in the hotel room (prolly feeling sick as a horse).
-As Girls behaviour changes, OP doesn't like it do he dumps a 3 to 4 month pregnant girl by letter.
-She and her parents send him a letter back requesting no visitation.
-OP calls house, gets hung up on.
-Here we are.

AFAIK the OP isn't changing his story, he's not being totally clear (which might explain why he felt the need to communicate the breakup in a letter) in his posts, but reading from the beginning his sequence of events seem pretty straightforward. IMO some of us need to chill out a bit (TFXProtector) because now we're veering dangerously into White Knighting the girl against the OP.

At the end of the day (man I hate that phrase) it is his problem. He's asked for advice, it was given and he didn't take it. No need to rag on the fella for that though, my parents give me advice all the time and I throw most of that out the window.

Anyway, question to the OP, how far along is the girl? 6 months?

Edit
Just reread the first post, 5 months, so maybe 6 months.

 

I'm just as stunned as you are. I didn't think this could possibly get worse and I was absolutely wrong. I think he's telling the truth, here. It fits with all of the other insanity, so far.

Hell, I've seen people married for years that couldn't make decisions such as this one. So this is incredible to me. lol

That's an excellent way to put it. And yes, it needs closed.

Not true. We don't have her side of it, so there's a lot more relevant info we'll never get and it's certainly needed.

Ah, yes. It's just me. Riiight. Have you actually read what he wrote? And paid attention? Seriously, the guy's not telling the whole story here and there's a lot more to it. The kid might not even be his and he's harassing these people. There's no ifs, ands or buts about that. Now we find out he's paying her? With all of this insanity going on? Mmmkay. I just call it like I see it and if that bothers you, oh well.

 

It doesn't bother me, not in the slightest.

I don't know him or the girl, so I'm offering impartial advice which he asked for. As you say he may not be revealing everything, but we'll never know unless dialog continues right?

I singled you out (and not just me, The Dark Seeker mentioned you) because your contribution to this thread was the most extreme, which isn't to say I disagree with you (if you'd care to read back through my posts you'll see I've questioned his anger and breaking up via letter) but if people do gang up on the fella and the tone continues to degenerate then the thread will be closed and I for one am curious about the paternity of this kid.

So y'know, chill out man.

 

One of the most sensible posts in this thread. Several people were ready to pounce and pile on this dude the second the opportunity presented itself, like they haven't ever followed someone's good advice to a T. Judge not, lest ye be judged.

That said, OP has gotten the most useful advice. The kid likely isn't his, lawyer up, paternity test. Do with it what he may....

 

Run.

 

A lot of advice has been given, and the OP can choose to take it or not.

There's really nothing more to be said.